The value of being wanted


In religion it is discussed often the need to feel wanted. It is often discussed how God (or the higher power) will always make you feel wanted. However there is something to that missing. As evidenced by suicide rates in the united states alone, “Suicide in the United States is the 11th leading cause of death in the country. In 2006, the total number of suicide deaths was 33,300. It was the 7th leading cause of death for males, and 16th leading cause of death for females. Suicide was the third leading cause of death for young people ages 15 to 24.” {Cited from Wikipedia} . Why is it that it carries SUCH a high rate? If truly, simple belief that you are wanted, you are important was all that was needed, Wouldnt there be DRASTICALLY less deaths?

Depression, which often accompanyies suicide, is often times, a hormonal imbalance in the brain that can be treated with medications. It is not simply going to reslve its self though, and sometimes even councling or behavoral thereapy is important.

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/23/health/23mind.html

Citing the need for human touch in the article abouve it leads a person to question, How hard IS it to assure that someone feels wanted? Is it something as simple as “I thought of you today” or that you wished to visit with them? Perhaps nothing more then a hug, or a touch on the arm.
I DARE suggest that everyone strive to do this more often, even if it takes no more of your time them a memo on facebook saying “Thought of you today”. Or an exsuberant hug upon first sight, and since I am a hugger, maybe three more for good measure. Interestingly enough, even a kiss on the cheek can do MUCh for a self confidence. In many contrys, this is custom.

At ren. Fair there is entire classes/workshops fopcused on the ‘flirting and wooing’ taught by Maestro. In this class he pushes for one to understand tha it does NOT have to be sexual intent, simply to make that person feel wanted and valued. (and boy do I blush!) One should seek to ‘woo’ so much so that even the woman (or man) at the drive through that handed you yoru soda, feels valued at the close of your brief interaction.

So today, and from here out, I challenge you to push yoruself out of a box, flirt, woo and contact. Put forth effort into making another human feel wanted. Because sadly, More often then not, you may not realize that someone you think very highly of, doesnt even know you value them.

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